The Mother Wound

This week we covered the "Mother Wound": an unhealthy, emotional relationship with mom that causes a son to either be threatened by the influence of women later in life or to over identify and become submissive to the influence of women. Moms don't intentionally wound their sons this way, it most often unintentional viewed only as showing love to her son. Men with the mother wound will either be dominate or passive towards women. 

Four types of moms that contribute to the mother wound:

1. The unintentional mom: she is oblivious to her son's needs to connect with other men. 2. The hurting mom: a woman who has lost emotional connection with her husband and she makes up for this by over connecting to her son. 3. The unwilling to release mom: often times, these moms have dominate personalities and they simply love to be in control. 4. The fill in the gap mom: this can lead to over connection and dependence if the son doesn't have strong male mentors. 

Jesus and His mom: if you read mark 3:20-21; 31-35 and John 19:25-27 you will see that Jesus set up healthy boundaries for her, showed love for her, and showed her proper respect. 

Many men are "mama boys" and need an emotional separation from her to begin the transition into manhood. Men need to set up healthy boundaries. 

My mom taught me so many things, she is a magnificent Godly woman. But due to the absence of my Dad she had to over compensate in other areas God did not intend but she did this out of love. My mom was hurting, unwilling to release, and had to fill in the gap. Through several very tough conversations healthy boundaries have been set up and I appreciate her respecting my word in these areas. I wouldn't trade my mom for anything in the world and I love her dearly. I truly appreciate all the sacrifices she made for me. 

Now what? We have covered some tough things in the last 2 weeks: the Father wound and the Mother wound. Now it is time for healing in week #4. Make sure to be there.